This month I feel like I have really gained some self insight. I have long been told that I shouldn’t always try to be the knight in shining armour who rides in to save the day because it’s not always practical, it can come across as conceited, and it almost always makes me a target. It’s true. I have a hero complex. I love to be the one who can make a difference. But not because of what anyone else might think about it. Simply because love the feeling when I see the relief on the face of someone I have managed to help.
For a while over the past year I tried to rein that in. I refocused my attention and prioritised progression towards release. However, this brought me no closer to actually getting out and in fact I lost quite a lot of what I wanted to get out to. But even more importantly, I was less happy. Recently I saw that look of utter relief on the face of someone I had managed to help again and I was reminded why it is so important to me.
I could do with having your insight & wisdom on tap.. We’ve issues going on that i have know clue on and am clueless as to who to speak to for help..Adam don’t ever forsake who you are ..were thinking about you
I’m sorry that things don’t seem to be going well for you, Pam. I wouldn’t expect you to go into any detail here in a public comment, but if there’s anything I can do to help please feel free to send an email through and I’ll try to reply as soon as possible.
well said Adam I know exactly what you are saying and the feeling you get from helping people, I have the same complex and yes sometimes to the detriment of my family. like you I have had to learn when all my charity work etc is impractical and being detrimental to my family, but nothing replaces that feeling of helping someone. and I guess your prize on this occasion was seeing Cupcakes face,that was gratitude enough for you, but I Imagine at sometime in the future he will Thank you or return the favour Karma and all that. so congratulations to you for helping him achieve this step in his life and making the rest of is term inside a lot more bearable with the pictures of his children WELL DONE to you !
Thanks for your comments. There was really no need for cupcake to thank me at all. Sometimes, when you try to help a true friend thanks are unnecessary. Some people are standoffish which can come across as ungrateful in these situations, and they do need to say thank you, I think, just to show they are not taking you for granted. But other people show their gratitude in the way they are with you instead, and these people need never say thank you at all. It has already been said by their actions.